A ship on the water and the way of a young man with a women; these are marvelous to watch.  Both need to chart a safe course in order to avoid wrecking on the rocks of life.  We have a safe map in these words, and a wise captain in the Lord.  Enjoy a safe passage when you stay in the safe lanes recommended here.

Proverbs 23:19-35

19 Hear thou, my son, and be wise, and guide thine heart in the way.  20 Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh:  21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.

Make a choice to find and follow a wise path to life.  Steer far away from those who party with feasting and drinking strong drinks.  Those people are on a path that invariably leads to poverty.  You will be amazed at how fast the party will drain all prosperity.

22 Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.   23 Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.

Hear the wisdom and warnings of your father, and mother.  There is no righteousness in hating your mother when she grows old.  Even if it only comes at great cost, own truth and wisdom as your greatest investment.

24 The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.  25 Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.

A father who has righteous children probably got there by being a good example.  But children have free will and they can either do better or worse than their dad.  When they do well either way parents are rewarded by that more than anything else.

26 My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.  27 For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit.  28 She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth the transgressors among men.

Here our father advises the young to listen to good advice.  For the young man a prostitute is a step into the pit of death.  This cheap thrill is the most expensive to a man’s soul, his one true treasure.

29 Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes?  30 They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. 

The inheritance of mental, physical, and spiritual illness belongs to the drunkard.  As the drinks get stronger, the joy of life becomes weaker in the mixture of sorrow.

31 Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright.  32 At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. 

Looking at the wine brings its charm to life.  It begins to live in your mind as an attraction that should bring you comfort.  When it comes to life in you it begins to move on its own, getting stronger until it strikes as the poisonous snake that it is.

33 Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. 34 Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast.  35 They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again.

What begins as an attraction to your eyes will grow into a temptation to act on your lust.  The action to engage an unrighteous woman is like taking a swim in the stormy sea or relaxing in the crow’s nest of a ship.  If you are asleep in the place of great danger you will be unaware of the damage you are receiving until it is too late.  And yet in spite of the injuries, you will be drawn to repeat the mistake again and again until death.